Retired in the Philippines/ Expat’s, Sexpats, This and That, Paul in the Philippines Old Dog 12/19

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Retired in the Philippines/ Expat’s, Sexpats, This and That, Paul in the Philippines Old [email protected] in the Philippines Old Dog New Tricks I babble on about his and that and reply to a comment from one of my viewers


  1. If the pandemic ever allows I have full intentions of moving to your neck of the woods. The thing that matters to me is the availability of golf courses ? That is my ” driver” . Is that option available from Valencia ?
    Sincerely Bruce Tattrie Edmonton

  2. Here’s something I always tell guys who are thinking of going to the Philippines and having a relationship. Just to be clear, I’m not talking about using the professional services of freelancers, bar girls, call girls, etc. No, I’m talking about having an SO of some sort – you know, a girlfriend or wife.

    These guys tell me, “Well, I’ll go to the Philippines and date around for awhile, and then find my soulmate.” Hmmm, no. In the Philippines (indeed, all through Asia) there is no such thing as “casual dating”. That concept does not exist in Asia, like it does in the West. If you date a woman, and get to the point where you’re having sex, then as far as she’s concerned, you’re having a serious, monogamous relationship with the implicit/explicit goals of marriage and a child together. A Filipina will tell you she loves you in a week. Maybe three days. And she’s not lying, either. There is no more dating other women.

    So, if you think you’re going to “shop around” when you get to the Philippines, and you will be sampling this big buffet of beautiful Pinays, that’s probably not going to happen. Normal women, good girls that you’d like to have a relationship with, they’re just NOT going to go for that. Nope, nope, nope. You can engage in what can be described as “serial monogamy”, that is, you can be in a committed, monogamous relationship with an SO, and then, if things go bad, break up with her (this may get ugly!), and eventually, find another SO. Being a serial monogamist is palatable to the women and to societal culture in the Philippines. Juggling 3, 4, 5, 6 women at once is definitely not acceptable. Be discerning in how you date, and who you date – less trouble for you, and, you won’t break some poor girl’s heart.

  3. Paul, I will retire in July 2023. First thing I do is to find a home in Dumaguete/Valencia for my girl and her son. She is 27 years old, her son is 4 year old. We will look for a home. Maybe Baby Mae can help?

  4. I love the holier than i attitude some x pats direct at so called sex pats, as if these x pats weโ€™re attracted to the Philippines for its great infrastructure only ๐Ÿ˜ you could argue that many honourable x pats are just x sex pats that lost the plot and got caught ๐Ÿ˜‚

  5. My wife and I are a few years from retirement and in the process of searching countries to retire. We are fans of Latin America so Mexico, Dominican Republic and Ecuador at the top of the list. We have visited and vacationed in these and many other countries. We know the language, history and culture and would feel comfortable in any of those places. What was your draw to the Philippines in the first place? I was stationed in Okinawa, Japan while in the USMC in the early 80s. We traveled to PI and many other countries in the area. I donโ€™t know if I would like to return to live there but would not discount it. Would have to visit the area again, including Vietnam, Thailand, Cambodia to see whatโ€™s changed.

  6. It ok to be single it your life . I would have no reason to visit Philippines if i did not meet my Filipina online . It may be true the best way to meet them is to go there but not for me. The only reason i could move there leave my family is for her i would not want to be alone i can do that here and enjoy my hobbies i can’t do there . You have to give up a lot to live there it not for everyone the best part is cost of living

  7. Good video paul, people always assume that every expat is a sexpat, personally i think this is so far from the truth its not real, most guys come here to get away from the grind and depression that sets in after working for over 40 years, in most cases in jobs that we hate, then going through divorce, family problems, and a multitude of other problems, for sure some people take their baggage with them when they arrive here, but i think a lot of guys see it for what it is, a new start and a new lease of life, are we escaping the realities of life in the west? damn right we are, and i thank god every day that i did ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. Thinking and planning on a move to Philippines if i can put my Ducks in order . Im in my late 50s and have been single for the last 5 years and if i can make the move to the Philippines having women in my life or share a home with would be the last thing i would want , to be honest it would be tempting as the women are very inviting but i want to leave the west partly because of western women and all the stress and problems that go with it . Freedom / being single / beautiful beachs / simple life / peace and quite / riding a bike again would do me just fine .

  9. Nice laid back chat Paul, pretty much my take on it too. My girl holds onto my love handles when we ride a scooter, she calls it her safety belt. Iโ€™m not sure what that tells me haha.

  10. Maybe a good video to do now is, how it feels to live with someone after being alone for so long, the changes, the compromises you have had to make and how to deal with it. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

  11. After spending 3 months talking to 900 Filipinaโ€™s, I learned that many Western men groom the women over time, then come to Philippines and have sex then leave….never to be heard from again. This is how I understand a sexpat,. Those that do so are sociopaths. Yes, of course some women do it to have their financial needs cared for, and Iโ€™m not referring to those. Just the psychos that use vulnerable, young women.

  12. Hello Paul another good one. Not sure if I will retire there. I can retire now but am waiting to see how things go here across the nation. Iโ€™m halfway between buying a sailboat of going to the PI. Like you I have been through the ringer on marriage. No kids of my own but raised a step daughter. I also enjoy my own time doing what I want. I think a month visit in the PI find good digs and location learn infrastructure etc. is the way to go. Not looking for any Romance. Is there a golf course in your area? Medical things to find out, I have BCBS but understand that does not work there. I have learned a lot from you and others blogging. I still have lots to research. Thanks again. From Georgia USA. ๐Ÿ‘

  13. What would you be if you were 40 years younger and retired? I know the answer. Same as mine. ๐Ÿ˜‚. Iโ€™d be smoking all the beauties I could. Especially in Thailand.

  14. I agree about the touching, feeling communication between couples….a touch on the hand or anywhere else can tell much if the person you’re with likes you. I’ve had the same experience in Malaysia, Thailand, Indonesia and Laos….being from the South in America, we’re all very touchy/feely people.

  15. Great info. Yup, same. The biggest obstacle to relationships, or even dating, for me that I enjoy my own time. I do date here in the US sometimes, and it if fun…to a point. Relationships are an effort, loss of choices, more stress. Pluses too…but it seems like a push.

    But then Filipinas sure seem like they would make a relationship worthwhile. Tough choice. So I guess I’ll just start off as being single and see how it goes once I’m in the Philippines. Can’t predict the future.

    I do suspect that many of the guy expats there have very similar views on life. Not everyone feels comfortable moving to another country and that puts them on the same page. So that’s attractive to me too.

  16. Fishing would be a good video subject at least for me. Couple angles. One is what kind of fishing is available, salt & fresh. Also could be interesting is creating a resort for fishing. Anything like that there? We have those in the US. Private stocked/managed lake with lodge.

  17. Paul, thank you for sharing your adventures in life. 62yrs old from the USA, I have been to Thailand and Vietnam next stop is the Philippines. I love the different things you can do and the food and the people in Asia, it is amazing ๐Ÿ˜‰ I am divorced twice and comfortable being by myself, but I do seek the company of women when I am on vacation. Thereโ€™s just something about Asia that people donโ€™t look at you as being old like they do in the US.
    Many Blessings

  18. Thanks Paul. Great info, never seen your vlogs before, but I have just subscribed, as I like your calms ways. I hope its okay I ask a couple of questions – or you could make a vlog about this later if you feel like. Seems like Dumaguete/Valencia could be the place to retire. After 25 years of marriage and divorced 2 years ago, i am surely not thinking of relationship right now. Like you did, I like my freedom, but I like to go on dates or meet girls a few times a month, without getting serious. And the question is if that is possible in a place like Dumaguete, or I would very soon “get a reputation” for being a Sexpat ? I am 58 years old, Scandinavian, but lived most of my life in England, Spain and Dubai. I sold my business here in Europe and do not really need to think about money (even after I just lost half :)), so my second questions is if there is a mix of Expats around you ? I do like to be between many nationalities as it gives a very good variations of friendships. Dont get me wrong, I love Americans and I have a very American mindset, but its just more fun when more nationalities get together. And lastly, the main question – do you have a good golf course nearby ? I checked on Google Map, but it did not really show. Sorry for the long comments, but maybe fuel for another vlog.. Happy Holidays

  19. Good points Paul. Reminds me of a wonderful relationship I had with a Professional SCAMMER and Liar from Angeles City. That relationship lasted 8 years before her ate finally got sick of her little sister’s lifestyle and told me the TRUTH. Thank God!

    I HATE Angeles City (Sin City) and will probably never go back again. Besides, my Filipina Asawa would probably kill me if I did. Thank God for a good wife! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ

  20. Great advice Paul here’s a little story a buddy of mine I knew for 20 years passed away he was with this woman for 30 years and never married but they acted like a married couple. He loved her That’s what he told me one day when he passed away she told a girlfriend well I never really loved him but he was a good provider wow when I heard that that just pissed me off… for the guys out there they’re stuck in a relationship and just want to puke every morning and hate their lives now’s the Time to jump ship while you’re still breathing and have brain waves go for it.. Its your life be happy do what you want to do true happiness is only a plane ride away do it…..โœŒ๏ธ

  21. Hi Paul great video. I’m 56 now and thinking about retirement at 62 or so. I do have the funds to retire at 62. Sounds like a great place for me. Maybe after this coming stuff is over. I will come and visit you and check it out. Have a great day.

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