What I’ve Learned From My Filipina Girlfriend, Vi

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  2. You’ve slowly learned what’s more important because your mother won’t live forever and appreciating what you have now is truly a give that shouldn’t be wasted , life s amazing your girlfriend taught you something you needed to learn and it’s our choice how we see life the good bad and or between and Filipino lady teaches us the joy of life ! Reekay keep her that wonderful young Filipino lady in your she is special truly appreciate her she is a gift take care of her !

  3. thank you for your perspective on this. My Filipina has taught me that after love, nothing is important. No need to care about anything else. Focus on love. The joy and happiness from “just love” allows living in the moment and the release of baggage that has no value! My Filipina is also “bubbly” and full of smiles. The best to you both.

  4. Reekay, you speak of having a woman who is equally yoked with your spirit and demeanor which allows you to breathe and look at life in a more calm and logical manner. Very good advice my friend and especially on Mother’s Day. This goes to show you how a good woman can change your life for the better and to obtain longevity with her.” “Peace.”

  5. I think it’s awesome when your girlfriend the person you spend the most time with brings out just the best in you and is an inspiration sounds like V is for you. It’s like the song by Jim Croce .. Time in a bottle..

  6. Great post, Reekay. From what I can tell, Filipinos , as a whole live in the moment. Most Westerners’ minds are almost always looking ahead instead of the “here and now”. I know my mind has very little “down time”.

  7. I am pretty much in the same boat as you are I had to leave the Philippines I’m march of 2020 cuse of a emergency situation I have had to be without her for over a year know but ower love for each other gets stronger every day I hope I can go back to cebu soon

  8. I’m here now over a year with my grilfriend. Living in lapu lapu city..for me having a younger girlfriend is she makes me do things that I probably won’t do..full of energy. She keeps me young..and healthy

  9. Living life as it is, and accepting difficult times as well as happy times,, as a whole one philosophy, is part of the person way of living life!! Not all people agree on that!! For other people, enjoy the life you work for!!
    In other words, to the predominant western mind, life is a battle you have to win, to some other people, life is a (day&night)!
    Thank you Henry,, it’s a video for reflection and enlightening!!

  10. You seem happy. They say a person needs 3 things to be truly happy in this world.: Someone to love. Something to do. And something to hope for.

  11. Listening to you talk about Vi could be you talking about my Jen. I had in my history times before I came out of mental illness and towards the end with some depression which I had never suffered before. With Jen all that for me is in the past. The woman exudes happiness and positive energy just by being her. She works very hard and earns good money but she takes such joy in little things that I still after 8 years find myself laughing and feeling good at her happiness. She has lots of clients that have become close friends in her work as a Real Estate Broker and the words “I got a gift” as she comes through the door with such happiness is the same for something that might have cost a few thousand or just a few hundred. Her laugh when she has got herself a bargain just tickles me silly. I think you nailed it when you said it is their ability to live in the now that I had lost.

    Watching your video has made me realize I spend too much time on my laptop when she is home, even though I take time to ask about her day’s adventures I should be making more effort. I have already promised myself to go with her more when covid eases and spend less time sitting at home on the laptop. Thanks for this video as we sometimes need a ray of light to make us see something we have been taking for granted.

  12. Great monologue and good insight. I have noticed in my time in the Phils how carefree, positive and focused on the future people are. We can learn much from those who sometimes have very little. All worrying about the past does is waste the future.

  13. You know I really appreciate the calm common sense approach you have in your vlogs. It gives those of us trying to determine our new path a stick in the ground that creates a secure base thanks for all the info, input and more than that the honest truth that comes across. Look forward to what’s next

  14. Bung to Hagar: “Drink! for tomorrow we die!”
    Hagar to Bung: “Are we going to war tomorrow?”
    Bung: “No, this wine is .50c a gallon”.
    There’s a message in there somewhere and it doesn’t necessarily involve alcohol.
    My kids 5 and 8 keep me in the moment.

  15. Very good, deep, insightful video. The problem with blissful ignorance is that someone else ends up doing the dirty work of keeping the World running. For example I have heard that Brazilians are very cheerful people – and also that they are very good at looking the other way when they see suffering. Stepping over a homeless person is no problem for them. We, people of European descent, are the only ones capable of creating and sustaining a prosperous civilization. We can try, but we cannot escape this fact. It is both a gift and a curse.

  16. Hello Reekay, I also learn the same thing from Cherry, my girlfriend(or wife to be) in the Philippines. She always tries not allowing me to think, speak and behave anything negatively. Previously, I though we have just different idea, but it is not. I realized from your video today that what she is telling me about not being negative is what I should learn from her regardless of our age diff. that is invaluable thing.

  17. Hi reekay..really love your videos…they help me alot…I am still in a ldr with a Filipina and care about her very much..it has been 13 months of video chats everyday.we both have same birthdays..month and day and 20 years difference with me being the oldest. I don’t know when Phillipines will open up for me to travel there but I am not giving up on our relationship and she isn’t either…she has that positive attitude and is hopeful that it will be this year….I really don’t think that will happen but she gives me the hope that I need to keep our relationship going…thank you for your videos…they really help me with positive thoughts and always watch your videos…be safe and really hope to meet you someday soon

  18. WOW, so true ! Those 3 things I can really relate to having my province g/f very close to me for a year now. I may also add less petty & ” much more unconditional”. I was bred w/much discipline/structure/punctuality in life & to think ahead (future). A humble 75 y/o cano said to me reflecting/pondering on his own new found life/love here that ” I realized I was the one who needed to change “.

  19. Hello Henry and I also have read Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching book of philosophies. On another note, I believe that many people are caught up with all the negativity, the violence, the stress, the fast pace, and everything else that keeps a person busier in their everyday lives and AWAY from the simpler things. A perfect example is my DEDICATION to my 3 sons and my ATTENTION to doing things TOGETHER . I MAKE THE TIME in enjoying family time together and will NEVER EVER go down as a father who left his kids out on the sidelines!

  20. I think you nailed it with the “healing” aspect , like many of us we are damaged in some ways, become a bit jaded over time and can’t see the forest cos of the tree’s sometimes. She brought me back to the man I was before life took its toll without me even being fully aware of it. Her simplistic yet effective way she has just as said by the way she is is a form of wisdom in itself. Hope your Mum you and Vi doing well. Faith Hope Love 🙂

  21. I am in love with my Filipina as well Reekay. She has taught me a lot as well. Happy to her about your mom and girlfriend. Take care my friend

  22. Yes I have a young girl friend over there to am sharing some of my experience with her am 54 and she is 22 and I can’t wait to get over there to see her next year god willing

  23. You found a good catch since Vi is a joyful and positive influence on your life. Pleasant to be around. Filipinas have helped me laugh more and enjoy the simple things more like just hanging out, eating some food and rockin some Karaoke

  24. Hi Reekay.. I relate to everything your saying . My fiancee Neri has been teaching me too to live in the moment , She too has taught me patience to enjoy the now .She is my breath of fresh air like Vi. is your breath of fresh air . Every thing you spoke here I too have learned from Neri. Hope is one of the best gifts that My fiancee has brought into our relation besides genuine love. I think the culture of the Filipino people has a lot todo with this where as those of us from the west are taught to think ahead to learn from the past , not thinking so much about living in the present.

  25. Good stuff. We can always learn from all of our relationships. The are in our lives to give us a message and we learn and become wiser……………hopefully.

  26. After watching your video, the first thing that comes to my mind is an Usher song called “you got it bad” it’s a love story. Glad you found the “One”

  27. I too struggle with being in the moment, my Filipina helps keep my mind from wandering too far. We can just interact as a man and a woman, no chess match or strategy needed.

  28. Great Video! I have always liked your non-cynical approach to relationships. I have a similar relationship with Ne as you do with Vi (hey that rhymes) We are now going on our 3rd YR. together & it just gets better the more we both understand each other. We learn from each other. I am not big daddy put on earth to raise her. I respect her abilities as she does my experience. Likewise, I like you have to remind myself that although you should learn from the past & plan for the future U can only live in the present. The past is dead & gone & the future never gets here. When it does, it is the present.

  29. Interesting topic Rekeey, The resiliency of the Fillipino people is something I really admire. There have been studies that show that there are both physical and mental benefits to overcoming adversity. Anyone whose lived a long life knows that how we deal with the difficult times in our life is what really makes us who we are. Having an easy life does have it’s disadvantages. In America it’s difficult to live in the moment because many people look at it as poor planning.

  30. Women’s liberation in Western culture makes a competitive atmosphere in the relationship. Filipinas are willing to let the man be the head of the house.

  31. Reekay, Leonard Cohen said “One grows old from touching others”. And along
    with this growing old, things in your heart get broken. I understand full well how
    someone like Vi could be the path to helping you mend and reconnect to the
    things that really matter– maybe the only way it could ever really be done.

  32. My Filipina friend got a job with a call center, providing customer service to Americans…. It’s frustrating the life out of her. She made a comment today that is very telling about the American way of life… She needs to escape this job, before American hatred, permanently destroys her hopeful nature… God, I hope she can hold onto it. it was one of the most beautiful things she possessed.

  33. I like the way you put that “a constant battle not to become cynical.” I think our environment influences that a lot. PH seems to flush that away

  34. Once again very succinctly said, of course any nationality can have good or bad traits..I think we’re all kind of like puzzles, out and about looking for the missing pieces, sometimes it takes more than one try and lucky are they who find each other and fill the voids..exuberance is a great start..so that person is out there somewhere with your missing pieces..best of luck to all, thx for the vid 🙏🏻👍🏻✌🏻🕊

  35. do you know snow finn he quite his job 7 yrs ago and makes lot of money from youtube , also other one is called becoming filipino he quit his job also , now hes making ton of money from youtube videos from the philippines

  36. If you live in the past you will be depressed
    if you live in the future you will be stressed
    So live in the moment…..Tomorrow is promised to nobody

  37. A good woman has qualities that will center a man… by our vary natures, the best of both sexes, mutually symbiotic, can bring out our best.

    A healthy relationship is often challenged by daily distraction, responsibilities of the day, and our own misgivings and anxiety. Take a moment, quiet yourself, spend time together. You’re in love Reekay! I’m happy for both of you.

  38. Yes! After 30 years (25 years of marriage) I still reflect on how my partner has totally transformed my perspectives on life. As a teenager, I could _never_ have envisaged my life as it is now. I wouldn’t trade this for anything else. Its not always easy, but definitely worth it. I traded up in all manner of ways.

  39. Over the LAST 4O Years …..My BEST RELATIONSHIPS Were With PINA Girls ( In USA ) !!! I Am NOW, ( SLOW LEARNING!!!! LOL ) LOOKING for a PINA WIFE !!!!!!!!

  40. Many phil lady hav scam.me
    We pity they dun pity
    They use pandemic hurricane stop.school reasons
    They start with my rent 5000
    I stop school
    My family chase me
    Many reasons

  41. Hey Reekay my friend, I have definitely learned a lot from my Filipina fiancée. I have definitely learned patience with things, being a lot more positive, and just being a much better person. Thank you for sharing this awesome video my friend. I hope that your mom is doing well. Please stay safe and healthy, and God bless you, Vi, and your family.😊 😊 😊 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

  42. I think( comments welcome I don’t have all the answers) but I feel society today is all about staring at that cell phone and or computers and forgetting to just enjoy the beauty around us,if seen it so much where a family is out having dinner or just get togethers and everyone is staring at the cellphone I just don’t get it. Henry hope all is well.

  43. The main problem with the US is that it rewards lack of talent and character and values as much or more so than people who truly have talent and good values.

  44. I hear what you are saying about living in the present. That’s a good thing to do! But don’t you think it is normal that this is easier for Vi than for you? Vi doesn’t have that much of a past yet to look back on. Five years ago she was still in her childhood. She is not yet bothered by career failures, broken marriages, problems with her children, etc. That’s more something for people our age. At the same time, she is still too young to be too much concerned about the future. I think it was pretty much the same for me when I was her age. My only concern at that time was performing well at work and possibly advancing my career, but the future is still so far away when you are that age. As you mentioned in your video, at our age we already start thinking about our mortality and what will happen if we get health problems. For her, that is still a lifetime away. So I fully understand that she is better at living in the here and now than you are and if she can carry some of that over on you, that’s great!

  45. Regardless of what you said in your video, still average person and I’m talking about American, life in the states that’s the way it’s if we like it or not that’s the system we grow up with is to keep working and looking for any opportunity to raise the standerd of living plus always thinking about the future if something will happen how to deal with if it comes and specialy what will be if we become older and if we became sick and so forth. Yes this is the system we average Americans became slaves. When we were young and we were teenage in high school or later in college we had all the fun that life was giving us but when we started to be in the real world we live in became different and year after year life can be hard in some degree since you don’t want to end up like a homeless living day by day just to survive. Of course money is not everything in life but still important. For you, you had whatever experiences in your life and you are old even you didn’t reach retirement age the standard age in America. Your girlfriend I assume if I remember she is 24 and I assume she is only high school diploma from the philippines regardless of how it was in her younger years in hardships or whatever, she has no experiences of the real world we live in and she acted pure so she has to be charming, wonderful and loving personality specially living with you. Just a question..if you can’t provide a better living conditions for her plus supporting her in many issues is she still will be with you? Of course no one will have an answer to it but later on regardless of how long it’ll be you’ll get the answer. Whishing you the best if your relationship will be permanent or even temporarily one, we live one life only and we try to seek the best of it.

  46. I can totally relate to your experiences. As westerners, we do tend to live in the past and future. It’s part of culture. How, there is an upside to this westerner trait, and downside to living totally in the now, with no attention to the future. Because we think about the future, we prepare. We save money, we invest, we brush our teeth, and we take out medical insurance, for instance. Filipinos do not save, or prepare in any way for the future. Very, very few brush their teeth, and as a result, almost all Filipinos start to lose their first teeth as teenagers, and lose all of their teeth very early in life. Because Filipinos do not save, they experience overwhelming suffering in emergencies. For instance, in the Philippines, all hospital turn you away if the cannot producer cold, hard cash up front. Thus thousands die yearly in immense pain and agony from appendicitis, and numerous of medical conditions, because they do not save, or take out insurance. I believe that a happy medium is the ticket. Live as much as possible in the present, but don’t neglect the future.

  47. The risk averse tend to be more cautious or cynical. For example, I ask what really attracts a person to another and look for important responses of passion and intimacy. When it’s transactional, it’s more in the moment for both parties. Peace.

  48. Hello Bro’,
    I’ve followed your VLOG. A bit, been there, done that. Over there….even in the city /Province – you were in. #DGTE. Yes!!

    My advice: Pastime Paradise is NOT on your side!!! COVID? OMG‼This is 2021. Move, act with post-haste…..things are NOT as they appear – in the #FarEast. #Truth~ I was told in #2008…..didn’t quite heed. & Now…you’re back (here) – Exrended! #PleaseCheckIt ‼🙏

  49. Reekay, I can relate to so much of what your talking about. I really enjoy your videos like this one. It’s like having a conversation but just being the listener. I’ve been enjoying your videos since October 2013.

  50. (I am German) I have a Filipino Bofriend and he is the most humble and deep loving human beeing I have ever met! (I am 36 and he is 24) so deep emotionally where I can really learn from

  51. The things in life that you need to learn, specifically these things, you are thought because you are ready for it, and you deserve to have such knowledge. If you don’t learn it or maybe even notice it, then you don’t deserve it, or you’re not ready for it yet.

  52. I know what you mean on a lot of the levels you’ve discussed. Especially the part about just being with and looking at your gf brings joy to your life. That’s really what love is.
    It’s really amazing how Filipinos handle the life they’ve been dealt there in such a positive and happy way. It’s truly an amazing thing to be a part of.

  53. You have described my wife in a nutshell. My Filipino wife is as innocent in mind and spirit as Vi. We met 9 years ago and she’s 52 I am 53. We both had incredibly difficult previous marriages that actually led us to each other in a 1 in a billion chance encounter. She came to the US to help her beautiful sister who was crippled after a back surgery removing a tumor. She selflessly left her position in Singapore to help her sister here in the US. I met her at the hospital (my mother worked at that hospital) after a physical therapy session she took her sister to while standing outside. I was only there because my mother asked me to bring her medicine she left at home. Nevertheless, my wife wakes up daily with a smile and I look at her thinking how lucky I am to have her. She doesn’t stress, works diligently, and takes care of others at work and home. Amazing to me! She helps handle our rental properties, helped to renovate our beautiful home, and actually works away from home 4 days a week. We are purchasing land this week in Bacolod City for retirement. Life is good!

  54. I’ve never had a Filipina girlfriend, but when I do, I hope to learn from her that what I’ve heard about them is true, namely, that they are some of the most affectionate, loving and loyal women on the planet.

  55. Weird my Filipina she is the same…when the Philippines Gov going to allow us the Americans to visit our Filipinas….can’t wait…You speak the truth…we all in the same Boat! regardless race…I am Arm-Greek which is Armenian Half Greek…I always take care of my own Mother…regardless of what I do, I go shopping, buy vitamins for her and always help her in the kitchen. Because I know someday she will be gone! And I will look BACK! and be sad that I didn’t do enough! my duty is to give her back, what she lost bringing me into this world. One thing that scares me…which is quarantine…I don’t think I can handle that…10 or 14 days! I watched your video…and I know for sure I get the COVID if I travel there…they will make me….get it. that’s sucks!

  56. My friend after 3 failed relationships over the last 4 years’s..going there having only allowed to stay not less than 30 with an entrance stamp !! I have now found another philippine with the same personalty . She has a totaly different attitude towards me and our life together that being more understanding and loyal., Im happy for you and your wife and really hope you and will be together alway take care….joe from the UK who lives in Portugal but hooefully to retire in the philippines Dumanjug this year with my girlfriend good luck

  57. True my friend…this world is full of crup! and so many bad things going on even as I write these comments…there are very Evil people there, and greedy and selfish…But there are also good ones that we need to look into as well. Like such as yourself and me…and more there…we need to unite and create one huge population of people who positively tuned. That’s going to be the future…the only in the future Humans so survive and joining and creating relationships…all races and all belives…

  58. I meet my Filipina in 2012, and ever since I have been traveling every year to visit my Filipina…But COVID happened…She taught me so much…I didn’t know how to write…another thing I learn from her is just like you said to be patient and live in the moment…and be grateful for what I have RIGHT now….we chat pretty much every day…but some times her power goes down…and that’s about it. But I can tell she is missing me as well…I do support her with money yes…if I have the funds…But she is not like that…gold digger…I know more about her than before…I know for sure she is Genuine.

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